In thinking about #Vagina solidarity, I thought of a few relevant stories. Here’s one.
Once upon a time, a young Christian Mom (Me) was faced with getting on with life with a brand new baby, a pre-schooler and a husband with active brain and spinal cancer. Birth control was a concern and we were taking a few chances in still having sex. I booked an appointment to get an IUD put in at the Planned Parenthood clinic, the only place I found that did them.
When I was sitting there waiting for my appointment, I had a chance to really examine my preconceived notions about reproductive choice. About the kind of women that went to places like Planned Parenthood. I saw that those kind of people included me. I thought about the twists and turns in fate that could have easily had me there for abortion (I found out later they don’t do them at that facility). If I had been pregnant again at that point, I would likely have aborted, or at least would have wanted to make that decision for myself. I would not appreciate anyone trying to shame me into continuing a pregnancy under already harrowing circumstances.
At that point, I was pro-choice. I realized if I didn’t want anyone forcing decisions on my uterus, that I couldn’t sit in judgement on others with different backgrounds and circumstances. Parenthood and birth are huge life milestones. I am now infertile (tubal) and will not need an abortion or contraception. I fight for reproductive choice and dignity for everyone.
To well-meaning pro-life people: Some people make choices they later regret. That’s life. It’s easy to paint a picture of the road not traveled in your mind. I knew that there were limits to what I as a person was capable of. I was flitting at the edges of insufficiency constantly already. For the well-being of the family I already had, I could have chosen abortion.
I also over an overlapping period changed other of my beliefs through much the same process of examination.
Conclusion: You don’t know how strong you are until you try and until you surround yourself with good people. #Solidarity with #VaginaGate and Michigan reproductive justice.